Sexual problems and solutions / How can I (f) learn to have an orgasm?:
Dania Schiftan's book is full of practice tips if you want to learn how to reach orgasm during sex alone and with a partner. Her step-by-step program also helps you enjoy sex more.
An orgasm doesn't fall from the sky...
If there's something we want to master, we practice: If you want to play the piano well, you take lessons. If you want to dance like a ballerina, you train regularly. This principle applies to all areas of life – only when it comes to sex we think that everything has to work out by itself. The numbers show how wrong this assumption is: Only one women in three regularly reaches a climax during sexual intercourse.
...it's a matter of practice
Just like with anything else in life, if you want to get better at sex, you need to practice. A pianist has to train his fingers, you have to train your vulva and vagina to feel something during sex, and you have to practice to arouse yourself during sex, reaching an orgasm, and learning how to have fun while doing so.
10 chapters, 10 steps
In her book, our colleague Dania Schiftan shares her ten-step program to help you experience more satisfying orgasms through penetration, learn to control when and how to orgasm, and how to have more empowering sex with a partner. The ten steps are:
1st Step: Small anatomy lesson: the vagina, the vulva and the clitoris
2nd Step: Where am I?
3rd Step: How did I get there? – My sexual past
4th Step: Move it! – Why movement is crucial
5th Step: The pelvic floor and why it is so important
6th Step: Just a headache? – Sexual fantasies
7th Step: Swing it! – The Pelvic Swing
8th Step: More egoism!
9th Step: Swing it together! – Movement in duet
10th Step: Take off together
Why do we recommend this book?
Dania is part of our team, and she uses the same approach we do on this website. In fact, she used many of our texts as inspiration. We think this book is a great way to practice if you want to do it by yourself but still want some step-by-step guidance.