Sex tips and exercises / Sex tips, techniques, and exercises for men and all penis owners:

These exercises are good if you want to develop more dexterity and fun penetrating a vagina with your penis.

Why should I take my time?

During vaginal intercourse, the penis penetrates the vagina and the vagina takes in the penis. If you want to practice this during masturbation, it is best to imitate what the penis feels inside the vagina. Instead of rubbing, you practice penetrating with your penis. Take your time to practice. You learn through many repetitions. Please read our texts on sexual learning and practicing for sex to understand why practice is so important.

How do I make my hand feel like a vagina?

The vaginal wall feels similar to the palate and the inner wall of your cheek. Stick your finger in your mouth and feel it. Since the vagina is moist, it is best to mimic this moisture when masturbating: Moisten your hand well (e.g. with almond oil, lubricant or body lotion). The vagina has muscles, but they are not nearly as strong as your hand muscles.  So, if you're used to strong, hard rubbing – apply less pressure. Make a loose fist around the shaft of your penis.

Why should I move my pelvis?

Maybe you're used to rubbing your hand very quickly and keeping your body and penis still. During vaginal intercourse you are likely to move more. So, imagine your hand as a vagina. Instead of rubbing your penis with your hand, hold your hand still and see how your penis can penetrate your hand through movements of your penis and pelvis. We really recommend that you do these exercises for better pelvic motion. They will make you feel more during sex and allow you to control your arousal better. And, they will make you more skillful as a lover, because the pelvis controls both the movements of your penis and your sexual arousal.

What movements are best for vaginal stimulation?

Can you make circles with your pelvis? If you have a hard time with that, we suggest you practice it. The vaginal walls really like pressure, and it is particularly arousing for some women if you apply this pressure by circling with your pelvis. Try out different pelvic movements while penetrating your fist – swinging, circling, making a figure eight… Also, switch between faster and slower movement. Switch hands, from time to time, as no two vaginas feel exactly the same. All this variety can be very arousing. If you have problems with your lower back, make smaller, gentler movements.

Why is slow motion a good idea?

Fast movements can be very automatic, and sometimes we don't even feel what we do. So, go slower. You'll feel more. Pay close attention to what kind of touch your penis enjoys most and what arouses it most. Remember: You have to be aroused to keep an erection up during intercourse. So, it's crucial that you take care of your own arousal and don't just think about pleasing your partner.

What if I lose my erection?

Maybe it feels completely strange to you to arouse yourself with moving hips, less pressure and a wet hand. If so, it's totally normal that you may lose your erection – simply because you haven't yet learned to find this arousing. If you lose your erection, just switch to what you do best to arouse yourself – rub, press, do whatever you normally do during masturbation, until your erection is back. And then continue practicing. Go ahead and switch between old and new. Gradually your penis will get used to the new technique.

Why should I practice in a standing position?

We also strongly recommend that you practice arousing yourself in a standing position: When you stand upright, you feel your strength better than when you're sitting hunched over or when you're lying on your back. This can also support your self-confidence and your feelings of masculinity. It is important that you bend your knees slightly so that you can move your penis loosely with your pelvis. We explain this more in-depth in our pelvic swing tips.

Why should I practice in front of a mirror?

Try arousing yourself in front of the mirror. This might be unusual and even embarrassing at first. But as you get used to it you might start enjoying what you see. You might find yourself sexier and more masculine. This will make you much more confident showing yourself to a woman during sex.

Why should I experiment with condoms?

Roll a condom over your penis and arouse yourself while you wear it. Try on different kinds of condoms. This will make you more skillful with condoms, and your penis will get used to the feeling. This way, condoms won't bother you during sex.

How much should I practice?

We recommend that you do these exercises for at least 20 minutes – three times a week. Or, practice for a few minutes every day. Gradually, you'll develop more sexual fantasies about penetrating a woman's vagina with your penis – and in all likelihood, you'll also develop more desire for it. This can support your feelings of masculinity. It will show in your posture, in your gait, and in the way you approach women more confidently.