Anal sex takes patient preparation so you don't hurt yourself or your partner.
Why foreplay?
The anal sphincter muscle is very strong and usually very tense. It's important that you relax it so it doesn't get hurt. It needs the right foreplay to relax. Don't believe porn movies where anal sex scenes get right to the point. The actors had to patiently get their anus ready for anal sex first. Don't move too hard during anal sex, take your time for everything. Apart from injury prevention - relaxed anal sphincter muscles also make anal sex more pleasant.
Why go slow?
Slow movements allow you to feel more. You feel pain before it gets worse. You also get a better sense of how to relax your sphincters so that you don't suffer any damage.
Why is talking necessary?
Anal sex can cause injuries. Anything you do together that is potentially isky calls for more communication. Tell the other person immediately if something hurts and stop anal sex if you are in pain. Read in this text how to avoid injuries during anal sex.
How do I prepare the anus for anal sex?
You can caress the anal opening first and then carefully insert a moist finger into the anus and gently massage it. You can gently strech it like this. Then, you can also insert two fingers or a small object like a dildo. Read more about anal toys in this text. Move slowly, and breathe deeply. Deep breathing is relaxing. Please read these breathing tips.
How long before the anus is ready?
It can take a long time for your anal sphincters to relax. Sometimes it happens after a few minutes, sometimes it happens after hours. This varies from person to person and from situation to situation. You can also touch and arouse each other in other areas during this foreplay, to make the process more pleasurable.
Enema, yes or no?
If you've been to the bathroom before anal sex, your rectum is relatively clean anyway. So, whether or not you do an enema depends on whether you mind some little residue. You get anal douches in drug stores or sex shops. They come with user manuals. Read the manual. Stick to it. If you go too rough, you can damage your intestinal mucosa.