Sexuality: facts and tips / Tips for sexual intercourse (vaginal intercourse):
With a thick or long penis, there are some rules you should follow if you want to have pleasurable sex. Read these tips.
How do I choose the right condom size?
A condom that is too tight can burst or come off. So, when you choose condoms, make sure they fit well in terms of girth, i.e. how thick the penis is. The thickness is what matters for condom sizes. The length of the penis is not that important because all condoms are the length of a vagina. That means you're fully protected, even if the unrolled condom does not cover your whole penis.
How deep is a vagina?
The length of the vagina varies from person to person. It's somewhere between 6 and 14 centimeters when not sexually aroused. Also, the opening is very narrow without sexual arousal. Therefore, a thick or long penis can cause pain during sexual intercourse. Only when the vagina is aroused does it become larger, wider and wetter. Then the penis has plenty of room and can easily slide in and out. So, it's very important that you take your time and get each other really aroused before vaginal intercourse. Some call this «foreplay» but it's just as much part of the sex as anything else. This will ensure that the vagina is wide, long, and wet enough to have intercourse without pain.
Will my thick penis fit inside the vagina?
A thick penis is no problem when the vagina is well aroused. You just have to make sure that your partner is aroused and ready. Please read our text on sexual arousal. Also, it's always a good idea to have some lube handy because using lube reduces the risk of hurting your partner even further.
Will my long penis fit inside the vagina?
It's possible that your whole penis won't fit entirely inside the vagina. That doesn't mean sex will be any less pleasurable, though. Your penis is very long? Then your partner can also touch, stroke, or rub the part that isn't in the vagina. You can also do that yourself, of course. Another tip: when having sexual intercourse with a long penis, it's helpful if both of you move in the same rhythm.
How do I steer my large penis?
There are areas inside the vagina that might hurt if a clumsy penis jabs them. You can learn to use your pelvis as the steering wheel for your penis. Then you can skillfully maneuver it inside the vagina. You might also want to read our text: «Practicing For Better Sex: Tips For Men».
Why should I go slow?
A large penis should take it slow during sex. If you move slowly, you'll perceive more. You can feel where you are in the vagina, and so you will notice when you've reached the point where the penis can't go any deeper. Of course, for this to work, it's important that you can perceive your penis well in the first place. If that's not the case yet, then you might want to read our masturbation tips for men.
What should I tell my partner?
If your penis is very big, let your partner know before showing it to them. That way, it won't startle them. They might even be excited to see it. It's also very important that you talk during sex. Only your partner can tell you if, for example, something feels uncomfortable. So, ask your partner to tell you what feels good. Also ask them to always tell you what doesn't feel good.
What is the advantage of an actively engaged partner?
Encourage your partner to really be active during sex. Generally speaking, it's good if they move their pelvis. Doing so, they can control the angle and depth of penetration. Plus, they can be in charge of their own sexual arousal. This keeps the vagina wide and wet. You could also read our text «Sexual Intercourse: Tips for More Fun and Pleasure».
How do I put my partner in control?
To practice letting your partner take control, lie on your back. Your partner sits on top of you. Or you lie on your sides, facing each other. You stay pretty still. Then you let your partner actively take in your penis with their vagina. That way, they can dictate exactly how fast and how far they want to take it in. Plus, you can learn what they like by watching.