Sexuality: facts and tips / Sex tips and exercises for men and all penis owners:
Learning new techniques for sex is like learning a new language: It takes a lot of practice. And at first you probably won't feel much change.
Why does it help to practice?
Please read this text about sexual learning first. Then you'll understand why you can't just try something a few times during sex and expect it to simply work. If you can arouse yourself well in a particular way, it doesn't mean you can do it in any other way. You might get an erection and ejaculate very quickly if you stimulate yourself in a particular way. But if you try a new way, you might not even get an erection at first. Try using your left hand if you always use your right hand. What a difference it makes! It's like when you've learned French and now you have to speak German. That doesn't work: You have to practice.
Why should I practice alone?
The advantage of practicing alone is that you are not distracted and can dictate what you do and for how long. You also won't come up with the idea of needing to perform or please anyone or prove yourself to anyone... in short, you can concentrate best on yourself and you'll be likely to perceive yourself better. That means: If you take time for yourself, you will become a better lover.
How much should I practice?
It takes many repetitions for you to notice a change in your perception and function. And it is good if you practice regularly. Otherwise, your brain will forget what you have learned. One possibility is to practice at least three times a week for twenty minutes. Or you could practice five minutes a day. And if that seems too long to you, you can practice three minutes a day. It is important that your focus of attention is on what you're doing, and that you go about it with curiosity and interest. There is no point in caressing your penis while reading something on your cellphone: Training needs attention.
How do I practice?
There are numersous ways to practice. You can, for instance, practice movement during sex if you want to get more skillful during sex, and also if you want to sex to be a less stressful and more pleasurable experience. If you want to get better at vaginal intercourse, these practice tips might be helpful. If you come too quickly, you might be interested in these tips. We're currently building up our site and more tips will follow.
When will I notice an improvement?
It's like learning a new language: You can't expect to speak fluently after a couple of practice sessions. You need to practice regularly. Regular practice can be exhausting – especially at the beginning, when you haven’t seen any success yet. Again: It is important that you don't expect that a new type of stimulation or a new movement is immediately great and arousing, and that you're going to have a rock-hard erection and cum when you want to. Suppose you are used to rubbing your penis with a lot of pressure and now practice inserting your penis with a loose pelvis into a well oiled, more relaxed hand. At the beginning, it is quite possible that the erection will go away. You can restore it briefly with your familiar, well-practiced method and then switch back to the new technique.
Why should I combine "old" with "new"?
If you already have a familiar method of sexually arousing yourself, you can gradually "expand" your repertoire. You can also constantly alternate between familiar and new. You can switch hands intermittently. Or, you can move more intermittently and then return to your familiar, still, posture. By switching between familiar and new, new forms of stimulation will be connected more quickly with sexual arousal. Also, practicing is more fun like this. And if you have had enough of practicing and want to ejaculate, resort to your familiar method – so to speak, as a reward for practicing.