Sexuality: facts and tips / Sex tips and exercises for men and all penis owners:

These exercises are good if you want to have more skill and fun penetrating a vagina, anus or mouth with your penis.

How can I practice penetration?

During vaginal intercourse, the penis penetrates the vagina. And the vagina takes in the penis. You can also penetrate the anus with the penis during anal sex and the mouth with the penis during a blowjob. You can practice penetration on your own. Then it is best to imitate what the penis feels inside the vagina, anus or mouth. Instead of rubbing with your hand, practise penetration with your penis. So you keep your hand fairly still.

There are also sex toys that imitate the vagina or anus. You can also make them yourself. For example, you can tie 2 pillows together and place a rubber glove inside.

How do I imitate a vagina or an anus?

The vaginal wall feels similar to the palate and the inner wall of your cheek. Stick your finger in your mouth and feel it. Since the vagina is moist, it is best to mimic this moisture when masturbating: Moisten your hand well (e.g. with almond oil, lubricant or body lotion). The vagina has muscles, but they are not nearly as strong as your hand muscles. Are you used to rubbing hard? Then it's good to use less pressure. You can find out more about the vagina in our text about the vagina.

The anus is also soft and moist. The muscle tension in the anus is often quite high and you will feel more muscle pressure than in the vagina. This means it feels tighter. However, we definitely recommend practicing with less pressure, as described in the previous section. This will make your penis more sensitive.

How do I move?

Maybe you're used to rubbing very quickly with your hand. And you keep your body and your penis still. But when you have sex with another person, you move your body. And the vagina or anus doesn't move in the same way as the rubbing hand. So imagine that your hand is a vagina or an anus.  Instead of rubbing your penis with your hand, hold your hand still. See how you can move your penis back and forth with your pelvis.

And they make you more skilled. This is because the pelvis controls both the penis and sexual arousal. We recommend our text The Pelvis is the Steering Wheel of the Penis.

We really recommend that you do these exercises for better pelvic motion. They will make you feel more during sex and allow you to control your arousal better. And they will make you more skillful as a lover, because the pelvis controls both the movements of your penis and your sexual arousal.

If you can move your pelvis only a little or not at all because you have a disability or impairment, you can still use your imagination. You can also practice by imagining moving your pelvis back and forth and moving your penis with that pelvic movement. Pay close attention to how it feels.

How fast do I move?

Move as slowly as you can. You will feel much better. You will get used to the movement of the pelvis. Try to feel exactly what your penis feels and how it feels to slide your penis into something.

Pay close attention to what your penis likes to feel and what arouses you sexually. You will maintain an erection if you are sexually aroused enough. Therefore, it is important to pay attention to your own sexual arousal during sex with another person. Don't just think about what the other person likes.

Can you make circles with your pelvis? If you have a hard time with that, we suggest you practice it. The vaginal walls really like pressure, and it is particularly arousing for some women if you apply this pressure by circling with your pelvis. Try out different pelvic movements while penetrating your fist – swinging, circling, making a figure eight… Also, switch between faster and slower movement. Switch hands, from time to time, as no two vaginas feel exactly the same. All this variety can be very arousing. If you have problems with your lower back, make smaller, gentler movements.

Tip: Solo sex standing up

We also strongly recommend that you practice arousing yourself in a standing position. When you stand upright, you feel your strength better than when you're sitting hunched over or when you're lying on your back. This can also support your self-confidence and your feelings of masculinity. It is important that you bend your knees slightly so that you can move your penis loosely with your pelvis. We explain this more in-depth in our pelvic swing tips.

How do I practise showing myself?

Try arousing yourself in front of the mirror. This might be unusual and even embarrassing at first. If you watch yourself, you'll get used to others watching you. And as you get used to it, you will probably get more pleasure from what you see when you are sexually aroused. You might find yourself sexier and more masculine. This will make you much more confident showing yourself to your partner during sex.

How do I get used to condoms?

Roll a condom over your penis. And arouse yourself while you wear it. Try on different kinds of condoms. This will make you more skillful with condoms, and your penis will get used to the feeling. This way, condoms won't bother you during sex.

What if I lose my erection?

Your erection may go away first. You move your hips, use less pressure and a wet hand. You may not be used to being sexually aroused in this way. If so, it's totally normal that you may lose your erection. You just haven't learned to find this sexually arousing. You can read more about sexual learning in this text.

If you lose your erection, just switch to what you do best to arouse yourself – rub, press, do whatever you normally do during masturbation, until your erection is back. And then continue practicing. Go ahead and switch between old and new. Gradually your penis will get used to the new technique.

What do I gain from practicing regularly?

Take time to practice. No one learns from one day to the next. We learn through many repetitions. Please read this text about practicing.

We recommend that you do these exercises for at least 20 minutes – three times a week. Or, practice for a few minutes every day. Gradually, you'll develop more sexual fantasies about penetrating a woman's vagina with your penis – and in all likelihood, you'll also develop more desire for it.

Maybe this agile way of having solo sex will increase your sense of masculinity. Because you will feel your penis more and bigger. You feel more active and skilled during solo sex. If you're single, you may feel more confident about dating because you can feel and control your penis well, and the idea of a vagina or anus is more familiar to you.

We also recommend these exercises if you have experience with vaginal or anal intercourse and have problems with erections or with coming too quickly or not coming at all. This is often associated with an unfavorable technique that doesn't allow you to control and feel yourself as well.