Sexuality: facts and tips / This makes sex more fun for two:

In a relationship, it's perfectly normal if you don't both feel the same level of desire for sex at the same time. You should avoid some clumsy strategies for such moments.

Often, the two of you don't have the same desire for sex at the same time

In a relationship, it is often the case that both partners do not have the same desire for sex at the same time. Unfortunately, the person who has more desire for sex often uses very clumsy strategies to get the other person to have sex:

• Whining ("I am never really satisfied!")
• Pushing ("Come on!")
• Accusations ("You never want to...!")
• Blackmail ("If you don't want to, I'll find someone else!").

Anti-seduction leads to less desire for sex

We call this "anti-seduction". This is because the person who doesn't want to have sex feels guilty and under pressure. They may then participate in sexual activity, but of course not because they want to. In the future, they will probably have even less desire to have sex with the "anti-seducer" than they do now.

Seduction makes sex appealing

To seduce means that you want something and make this thing so appealing to another person that they are happy to join in. You can't do that with pressure! When seducing, it is very important that you give the other person the space and time to find you attractive and to get the desire to have sex with you. It is simply more pleasant when the person notices that you respect their decision and thus their sexual rights.

 

How can I seduce someone?

You can learn to seduce and it is worth practicing seduction. Please also read our tips on dating and seduction.