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This is a very pleasurable method of sexual arousal. Just before orgasm, you feel the need for more movement, and during orgasm, your pelvis and body swing. You're not stimulating a specific point, but a broader area.
What is characteristic of sexual arousal with movement?
This technique typically involves moving your body and pelvis. You play with your pelvic floor muscles and breathe deeply. Just before orgasm, you feel the need to move more, and your pelvis and body swing during orgasm. You're not stimulating a specific point, but a broader area: for example, larger areas around the penis, testicles, clitoral head, labia, vaginal entrance, vagina - perhaps also the breasts and other parts of the body. You move your pelvis and penetrate a hand or an object with your penis. You receive one or more fingers or a dildo with your vagina and stimulate the outer female genitalia alternately or simultaneously with the other hand. Or the vagina receives the fingers of one hand in such a way that the vulva can rub against the palm of the hand at the same time.
What are the advantages of this technique?
When you arouse yourself in this multifaceted way, you train the sexual arousability of a variety of nerve endings. This means that you are not dependent on arousing yourself in one specific way. Movement is a mixture of tensing and relaxing. This means that there is no tiring, strong muscle tension, and the increase in arousal feels comfortable and pleasurable. Movement therefore helps you to combine sexual arousal and pleasure. Our brain perceives movement better than standing still, so when you move, you feel more. During intercourse, you feel your genitals and your whole body better. This means you have more fun during intercourse, are more likely to have an orgasm during intercourse, and have more desire for intercourse. You can read more about the benefits of exercise during sex in this text.
What are the limits and potential problems?
When you arouse yourself with a lot of movement, it takes longer because the stimulation is not as intense. So you need more time. Learning to arouse yourself to orgasm in this way is also not so easy. You need to pay attention to yourself and feel your body well in order to play with the muscles in your pelvis. And the abdominal breathing needs to be practiced as well.
You may also not be able to build up enough intensity because you are simply too relaxed. In this case, it is especially important to play more with your pelvic floor muscles to create more muscle tension.
How do I learn this technique?
- In this text you will find tips for women and all people with vulvas and vaginas.
- In this text you will find tips for men and all penis owners.
- In this text you will find tips for moving the upper body.
How can I expand my technique?
The more different things you do with your body during masturbation, the more you will learn to arouse yourself in different ways. This way you won't become dependent on a specific pattern. If you are female, we recommend our tips on masturbation. If you also want to practice intercourse while masturbating, you can find tips on how to learn to perceive more in your vagina in this text. If you find that you tend to be too tense during sexual arousal, you can learn how to get more in motion in this text. If you have a penis, read these tips on masturbation, these tips about practicing for intercourse.
Why should I know about sexual arousal?
This may be the first time you have read about the benefits and limitations of movement as a method of sexual arousal and that you can expand your technique. Lack of knowledge can cause problems. For example, some people think that what arouses them sexually is unchangeable. It is important that you know: You have a right to accurate, up-to-date information about sexuality.