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This is a very popular method of sexual arousal. You may rub a very specific spot on the penis or the head of the clitoris. The body tends to be motionless and tense. The movements with your finger or hand are rapid and automatic.

How do I rub my genitals quickly?

You may be rubbing your penis or the head of your clitoris with your fingers. You may rub a specific area. Or you may use an object or rub your genitals against something. The body tends to be still and tense. The movements with your finger or hand are quick and automatic. The more sexually aroused you are, the faster you rub. You may also rub with more pressure or use a mixture of pressure and friction. Tension increases, especially in the back, abdomen, buttocks, and thighs. You hold your body still more and more. At the very end, you may stretch your back into an arch. You probably breathe mostly from the top of your chest. You may even hold your breath for a moment.

What are the advantages of this technique?

Many people use this technique when masturbating. Rubbing and pressing the glans of the penis or the clitoris is a particularly good way to increase sexual arousal because there are an incredible number of nerve endings that are sensitive to friction, pressure, and stroking. The more often you stimulate them, the more your brain learns to experience it as arousing. So you are training the sexual arousability of the nerve endings you are rubbing. And because you also tense the muscles, you also train the sexual arousability of the nerve endings in the muscles.

What are the limits and potential problems?

You may find the excitement leading up to orgasm tiring because of the rapid rubbing and muscle work. Depending on the speed, pressure and muscle tension, your hand or arm may also become very tired or even start to hurt. The pleasure then fades into the background. This won't necessarily make you want more. You may also have to follow a very precise sequence in order to reach orgasm, and any deviation will disturb your arousal. Your partner may then be unable to perform the exact technique you need with their hand or mouth. During intercourse, you may not experience penetration as arousing. If you have a penis, it's because the vagina simply can't rub as fast or push as hard as your hand. And if you have a vagina, it won't find the stimulation arousing because you've always practiced arousing your clitoral head during masturbation - not your vagina.

How can I expand my technique?

The more different things you do with your body during masturbation, the more you will learn to arouse yourself in different ways. This way you won't become dependent on a specific pattern. If you are female, we recommend our tips on masturbation. If you also want to practice intercourse while masturbating, you can find tips on how to learn to perceive more in your vagina in this text. If you find that you tend to be too tense during sexual arousal, you can learn how to get more in motion in this text. If you have a penis, read these tips on masturbation, these tips about practicing for intercourse.

 

Why should I know about sexual arousal?

This may be the first time you have read about the benefits and limitations of fast rubbing as a method of sexual arousal and that you can expand your technique. Lack of knowledge can cause problems. For example, some people think that what arouses them sexually is unchangeable. It is important that you know: You have a right to accurate, up-to-date information about sexuality.