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This is a very fast method of arousal. For example, you use a vibrator that you hold on your clitoris head or elsewhere on your genitals. Or you direct a shower stream at your genitals. Or you use an electric toothbrush, a vibrating phone, or something similar.

How do I arouse myself with a vibrator or shower stream?

With this arousal technique, you primarily stimulate nerve endings on the outer genitals, which are sensitive to vibration. Women in particular have many of these. This is why this technique is not as common among men. Therefore, we have written this text for women and people with vulvas and vaginas.

For example, you use a vibrator that you hold on to the clitoris head or elsewhere on your genitals. Or you direct a shower stream at your clitoris or vulva. Or you use an electric toothbrush, a vibrating phone or something else that vibrates. You probably tense the muscles in the pelvis or the whole body. You breathe mostly from the top of your chest. You may even hold your breath for a moment. You're probably barely moving your body.

What are the advantages of this technique?

Vibration can quickly increase sexual arousal. The stimulation is very intense and many people can easily learn to reach orgasm this way. You stimulate nerve endings that are sensitive to vibration. The more often you do this, the more your brain learns to experience it as arousing. In doing so, you are training the sexual arousability of the vibration-sensitive nerve endings. And because you also tense the muscles, you also train the sexual arousability of the nerve endings in the muscles.

Your partner may be interested in using the vibrator together. This way you can share the sexual arousal with each other.

What are the limits and potential problems?

If you have learned very well to arouse yourself with vibration, you may find other forms of arousal meaningless. Fingers and a penis can't vibrate. You may also find it annoying to be "dependent" on a device or the shower stream during sex. Some partners are bothered when the vibrator “has to” be there. The high muscle tension can also cause problems. If you focus on your external genitals while masturbating, you may not learn to feel your vagina well. This will make intercourse less pleasurable and arousing and possibly painful.

How can I expand my technique?

The more different things you do with your body during masturbation, the more you will learn to arouse yourself in different ways. This way you won't become dependent on a specific pattern. We recommend our tips for masturbation. If you also want to practice intercourse while masturbating, you can find tips on how to learn to perceive more in your vagina in this text. If you find that you tend to be too tense during sexual arousal, you can learn how to get more in motion in this text. 

Why should I know about sexual arousal?

This may be the first time you have read about the benefits and limitations of sexual arousal with a vibrator or shower stream, and that you can expand your technique. Lack of knowledge can cause problems. For example, some people think that what arouses them sexually is unchangeable. It is important that you know: You have a right to accurate, up-to-date information about sexuality.