Dear Lilli,
I am a well endowed young man who had sex for the first time with a middle aged woman having(in her own words) a "shallow" vagina.
In missionary position, I couldn't get whole of my penis inside her. The whole time I felt pressure on the midway on the shaft of my penis. It felt very foreign, weird and a little bit uncomfortable,
When standing upright, my erect penis curves a little bit downwards. Also, during missionary, after a while, she put a pillow under her buttocks. Though I couldn't fully penetrate her, it still felt weird but to a lesser degree.
We changed to doggy style, this time I felt like I was able to penetrate a bit deeper but while thrusting my pelvis, my penis kept falling out. This frustrated me a little bit.
We switched to a position where I can penetrate her sideways from the back while spooning her. But again I started feeling pressure on the midway of the shaft.
The pressure I felt was not too much or painful in anyway. But it felt like it is localized on the midway of the shaft of my penis. I got worried and scared as the localized pressure felt weird, very new and nothing like that I am familiar with during masturbation. The fear made feel uncomfortable and we stopped having sex.
Now in retrospect, I wonder if it has something to do with me being well-endowed(18 cm when erect) and she being shallow. What do you think?
I am curious about the range of depth of a vagina when it is not aroused vs when it is aroused. Google search gave answers that are too different from each other. It would be great if you can tell me this.
Do you think whatever I'm felt has to do with curvature of my penis which impacts the angle of penetration?
To make sure she is ready for penetrative sex. I made her orgasm by fingering her vagina. So, she was aroused to take the whole of my penis in, right?
I'm bit scared and worried if I have some medical issue that causes me to feel localized pressure on the midway of the shaft of my penis and/or some issue related to the curvature of my penis.
This fear is making me averse to sex and this aversion has effectively made me stop dating or meeting new women altogether making me feel very lonely.
I'm stuck and I badly need your wisdom.
Thanks in advance for your answer.
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As you write yourself, you are not very experienced yet when it comes to sex with a woman. And because you are a keen observer, you sense problems. But from what you write, I see no problems. It's all normal.
Your penis is normal in size. The slight bent doesn't matter at all, many penises curve a bit when erect. I also think that the woman probably has a normal vagina. Maybe she just doesn't know her vagina that well. Because what you felt on the shaft of your penis were simply her pelvic floor muscles. It sounds like she was tensing them very hard to increase her arousal. So, you felt the pressure of her pelvic floor muscles on your penis. She probably means that when she says "shallow vagina" because tensing her muscles makes her vagina feel tight as well. But that has nothing to do with the vagina itself, that's just the pelvic floor muscles.
And of course, masturbation feels different from intercourse with a woman. I would recommend that you gain more experience, because only then can you judge what is good for you and what feels "normal" for you.
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