(27/M) I find it extremely hard to cum during sex… more often than not I cannot. I started practicing masturbation (or practicing for vaginal sex) like you mention… but is it necessary to orgasm during masturbation and practice to awaken the nerves and increase the sexual arousal? Or is just feeling and being aware of the pleasant sensation enough to start?
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Being aware of pleasant sensations is a very good start already. Learning something new sexually starts with "boring", "meh" – and then, after practicing for a while, it becomes "ok, I feel something", then it becomes interesting, then it becomes pleasant, then it becomes arousing, more arousing, very arousing.
So you're doing great. I suggest you continue, and exercise as often as possible. Maybe you want to include some sexual fantasies while you practice for vaginal intercourse. Imagine vaginal sex with a hot woman, for instance.
As we describe in this text, you can also combine the old and new - i.e. the techniques we're describing and the technique of masturbation you're used to. You can gradually "expand" your technique of arousal like this.
But there isn't the one true road to learning sexually - apart from the fact that you have to try out new stuff and practice it. The trick is how to motivate yourself to practice. And this is where everybody finds out their own exercise-preferences.
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