Is it a man’s job to make a woman orgasm when having sex?
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No, it isn't. Your only “job” when having sex with another person is to respect their boundaries. All actions need to be consensual, meaning the other person has to agree to them freely. That goes for people of all genders. You're responsible for treating your partner respectfully.
You are not responsible, however, for your partner's degree of sexual pleasure or arousal – and your partner isn't responsible for yours, either. Everyone is responsible for their own sexual arousal and pleasure. An orgasm doesn't just happen. You yourself need to increase your sexual arousal and pleasurable feelings to reach it. You yourself need to experience the sexual situation and stimulation, and your brain needs to translate this experience into arousal and pleasure. Your partner can't do this for you, and you can't do it for your partner.
If someone is completely passive during sex, just trying to focus on the sensations, it's harder to reach orgasm, because sexual arousal profits from muscle activation. So the way you move, breathe, and play with your pelvic floor muscles is crucial for increasing arousal. Everybody needs to explore and learn how to do this. Maybe you or your partner hasn't learned how to reach orgasm yet. This is why we offer many sex tips and exercises on this website. Everybody can practice and learn.
Good sex involves all partners having fun and enjoying it. So it does make sense to pay attention to how your partner is doing. Many people are aroused by seeing their partners' arousal, so it's a win-win situation. But it's the responsibility of the individual to find out what they like and what arouses them and to communicate that to their partners.
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