My partner says I am out of sync with him in bed. When he thrusts inside me, I raise my hips to meet him. He says I am replicating his movements and it is frustrating for him. How should I move to match his movements? Please help!
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This isn't an issue of you being out of sync with him. You're both out of sync with each other. In other words, you're not doing anything “wrong” here. But something about your respective arousal techniques doesn't quite match at the moment.
Generally, we think that moving your hips during sex is a good idea. But it's true that not everyone likes that. Especially if they are not used to it. Many people have learned a very specific way of increasing their sexual arousal, often during masturbation. Such a pattern might not be compatible with another person's. So maybe, you moving your hips doesn't fit with your partner's arousal technique. Have you asked your partner how he wants you to move? And what exactly is frustrating him about your movements? Only he can tell you that.
Talk about it with him. Experiment with different positions, movements, and speeds. And don't lose sight of your own pleasure. Ask yourself: Why do I move the way I move? Does it give me more pleasure? What changes when I move differently? We can always expand our arousal techniques or learn new ones. Please read the texts that I've linked to in order to find out more about all this.
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